Category: Motivation
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Agency… Not Control
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Farmer Joe wanted his crops to grow. He planted seeds. He watered them. He fertilized them. He weeded them. He waited patiently. There was a good chance that Farmer Joe would produce a good crop that year. Did he? Was success guaranteed? You Can’t Guarantee Success Farmer Joe can do…
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Winston Churchill Got Back Up!
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In February 1915, Winston Churchill helped to lead a campaign that cost 214,000 lives. 214,000 lives! He resigned from the government. How does a person keep going after such a catastrophic failure? I personally can’t imagine how I could ever recover from such a catastrophic failure. I’ve made a lot…
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Do It Badly!
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Got a dream but can’t make it happen? Can’t even get started? Perfectionism could be the problem. Perfectionism causes anxiety that can be downright paralyzing. I’ve had many symptoms of perfectionism since I can remember. This doesn’t mean that I do everything perfectly. This means that if I’m afraid I…
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Letting People Misunderstand
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WOW. This is a hard one for me. I Want To Be Understood There is someone in my life whose approval I want. Whose understanding I want. Whose support and affirmation I want. I won’t be getting it. Ever. I know this… and yet I still try. And try. I’ve…
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Clutter, Clutter Everywhere
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“Clutter on the desk, clutter in the mind.” A friend said that over 20 years ago, and I still remember it. I have a lot of clutter on my desk. And in my room. And in my kitchen. And around the whole house. And it does seem to be a…
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What Helped When I Was Depressed
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Finding Temporary Relief Even during the worst of my depression, there were moments when I felt a little better. Three things helped. 1. Focusing on the present moment When I was depressed, my mind very much wanted to think deep thoughts. All. The. Time. There’s nothing wrong with thinking deep…
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Suffering, Happiness, and the Hedonic Treadmill
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Why, God, why??? Why won’t you take away my pain? Why won’t you heal me? Why won’t you change my husband and my kids? Why won’t you change my circumstances? WHY WON’T YOU FIX MY PROBLEMS?? When God Won’t Remove the Problem (yet) I’ve been listening to an audiobook by…
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Schadenfreude – “Damage Joy” – Happiness When Others Fail
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Schaden – what? Ever felt secretly glad that something bad was happening to somebody else? Then you are no stranger to schadenfreude! Schadenfreude – a German word meaning “damage” and “joy”. In other words, it’s that feeling of happiness when somebody bad happens to somebody else. You’ve felt it. And…
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I Wasn’t Feeling Snippy Until You Suggested It!
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“Why are you being so snippy?!” Huh? Me, snippy? I wasn’t feeling snippy at all. I merely made a suggestion that I thought would help! But you know what… now that you said that… I’m annoyed. I didn’t appreciate that. I’m feeling a little grumpy. In fact… I’m feeling snippy.…
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“I Want It Perfect!” – How to Hinder Your Progress
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“Perfect is the enemy of good.” I’m not sure who said that. It’s been attributed to Voltaire. I first heard it on an episode of “Blue Bloods.” What’s Wrong with Perfect? It sets the bar so high that it is impossible to reach it. If it’s an unattainable goal, you’ll…