Author: Laura-Kay
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Letting People Misunderstand
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WOW. This is a hard one for me. I Want To Be Understood There is someone in my life whose approval I want. Whose understanding I want. Whose support and affirmation I want. I won’t be getting it. Ever. I know this… and yet I still try. And try. I’ve…
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Clutter, Clutter Everywhere
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“Clutter on the desk, clutter in the mind.” A friend said that over 20 years ago, and I still remember it. I have a lot of clutter on my desk. And in my room. And in my kitchen. And around the whole house. And it does seem to be a…
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Problems: Why the Fish Won’t Grant My Wish!
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It’s Sunday morning. 10:30 a.m. I’m not normally home right now, and I’m not normally writing. I’m normally in church. But since every germ within a hundred square miles seems to have invaded our home, I’m raising the white flag. We’re staying home today. So, since I couldn’t go to…
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What Helped When I Was Depressed
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Finding Temporary Relief Even during the worst of my depression, there were moments when I felt a little better. Three things helped. 1. Focusing on the present moment When I was depressed, my mind very much wanted to think deep thoughts. All. The. Time. There’s nothing wrong with thinking deep…
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Suffering, Happiness, and the Hedonic Treadmill
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Why, God, why??? Why won’t you take away my pain? Why won’t you heal me? Why won’t you change my husband and my kids? Why won’t you change my circumstances? WHY WON’T YOU FIX MY PROBLEMS?? When God Won’t Remove the Problem (yet) I’ve been listening to an audiobook by…
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“I think I’m Going Blind!” – and Other Anxieties
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Floaters! It started a few weeks ago. I was noticing floaters in my eyes. If you’ve had floaters before, you know what I mean. The squiggly lines, specks, and cobwebs happily floated across my vision as I went through my daily life. If I looked at a computer screen, they…
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Schadenfreude – “Damage Joy” – Happiness When Others Fail
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Schaden – what? Ever felt secretly glad that something bad was happening to somebody else? Then you are no stranger to schadenfreude! Schadenfreude – a German word meaning “damage” and “joy”. In other words, it’s that feeling of happiness when somebody bad happens to somebody else. You’ve felt it. And…
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I Wasn’t Feeling Snippy Until You Suggested It!
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“Why are you being so snippy?!” Huh? Me, snippy? I wasn’t feeling snippy at all. I merely made a suggestion that I thought would help! But you know what… now that you said that… I’m annoyed. I didn’t appreciate that. I’m feeling a little grumpy. In fact… I’m feeling snippy.…
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“I Want It Perfect!” – How to Hinder Your Progress
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“Perfect is the enemy of good.” I’m not sure who said that. It’s been attributed to Voltaire. I first heard it on an episode of “Blue Bloods.” What’s Wrong with Perfect? It sets the bar so high that it is impossible to reach it. If it’s an unattainable goal, you’ll…
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Depression and the Disappearance of Positive Thoughts… My Story
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Great News! It was fall of 2002. I had just found out I was expecting our first baby! The next step was to call my doctor and find out whether I could continue to take my migraine medication while I was pregnant. But… The migraine medication was also an antidepressant.…