Author: Laura-Kay
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Following Your Self-Image (whether you mean to or not)
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Who are you? “I’m a healthy, intelligent capable teacher who will change the lives of the students I teach.” “I’m no good. I’m not talented, I’m not pretty, and I’m not very good at my job.” Which person will do something productive today? Which person will limp along unhappily, not…
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Agency… Not Control
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Farmer Joe wanted his crops to grow. He planted seeds. He watered them. He fertilized them. He weeded them. He waited patiently. There was a good chance that Farmer Joe would produce a good crop that year. Did he? Was success guaranteed? You Can’t Guarantee Success Farmer Joe can do…
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Winston Churchill Got Back Up!
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In February 1915, Winston Churchill helped to lead a campaign that cost 214,000 lives. 214,000 lives! He resigned from the government. How does a person keep going after such a catastrophic failure? I personally can’t imagine how I could ever recover from such a catastrophic failure. I’ve made a lot…
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Goodbye, Perfectionism!
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It wasn’t perfect. It wasn’t perfect. It wasn’t perfect. Something went wrong! It was only 95% good. The other 5% was bad. It was a failure! What on earth makes us think things like this? It sounds so silly when you step back and read it. But that’s what goes…
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Do It Badly!
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Got a dream but can’t make it happen? Can’t even get started? Perfectionism could be the problem. Perfectionism causes anxiety that can be downright paralyzing. I’ve had many symptoms of perfectionism since I can remember. This doesn’t mean that I do everything perfectly. This means that if I’m afraid I…
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Springtime Blues
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I’ve had trouble in the springtime for as long as I can remember. While most people were happily loving the warmer air and the increased hours of daylight, I was often increasingly depressed and anxious. Sometimes I would take more naps just so I could skip part of the day…
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Letting People Misunderstand
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WOW. This is a hard one for me. I Want To Be Understood There is someone in my life whose approval I want. Whose understanding I want. Whose support and affirmation I want. I won’t be getting it. Ever. I know this… and yet I still try. And try. I’ve…
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Clutter, Clutter Everywhere
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“Clutter on the desk, clutter in the mind.” A friend said that over 20 years ago, and I still remember it. I have a lot of clutter on my desk. And in my room. And in my kitchen. And around the whole house. And it does seem to be a…
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Problems: Why the Fish Won’t Grant My Wish!
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It’s Sunday morning. 10:30 a.m. I’m not normally home right now, and I’m not normally writing. I’m normally in church. But since every germ within a hundred square miles seems to have invaded our home, I’m raising the white flag. We’re staying home today. So, since I couldn’t go to…
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What Helped When I Was Depressed
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Finding Temporary Relief Even during the worst of my depression, there were moments when I felt a little better. Three things helped. 1. Focusing on the present moment When I was depressed, my mind very much wanted to think deep thoughts. All. The. Time. There’s nothing wrong with thinking deep…